by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Nov 29, 2018 | Blog
What we do during time of distress helps us become stronger during adversity.
Three common approaches and examples compliments of trauma-recovery.ca
Fight
- Crying
- Hands in fists, desire to punch, rip
- Flexed/tight jaw, grinding teeth, snarl
- Fight in eyes, glaring, fight in voice
- Desire to stomp, kick, smash with legs, feet
- Feelings of anger/rage
- Knotted stomach/nausea, burning stomach
- Metaphors like bombs, volcanoes erupting
Flight
- Restless legs, feet /numbness in legs
- Anxiety/shallow breathing
- Big/darting eyes
- Leg/foot movement
- Reported or observed fidgety-ness, restlessness, feeling trapped, tense
- Sense of running in life- one activity-next
- Excessive exercise
Freeze
- Feeling stuck in some part of body
- Feeling cold/frozen, numb, pale skin
- Sense of stiffness, heaviness
- Holding breath/restricted breathing
- Sense of dread, heart pounding
- Decreased heart rate (can sometimes increase)
Recognizes which one you are and comfort yourself by acknowledging feelings and rationally look at the situation you find yourself in and then proceed with brain storming solutions.
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Nov 26, 2018 | Uncategorized
Our community has undergone so much and I along with my associates would like to give back by offering all Woolsey fire and Borderline shooting victims a complimentary session to help them cope with the trauma they experienced. I have been contacted by Ventura County DA’s office inquiring if I would be interested in being a provider for those affected by crime, I will be a participating provider. If you or your family has been impacted by the Borderline shooting you are entitled to a series of psychotherapy sessions under Victim of Crime program. Please provide your number at the time of scheduling a session.
Feel free to call the office at 818.851.1293 and let us know your contact information, availability and if you have been impacted by the shooting the claim number.
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Nov 1, 2018 | Blog
- Create self awareness – aren’t you curious about how people perceive you
- No Judgment – feel free to express yourself without censorship and discover hidden issues
- Unbiased advice
- Learn self regulation and new ways of thinking
- Yoga for your mind
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 31, 2018 | Blog
For people who suffer from phobias, Halloween can be an extremely anxiety producing day.
List of common phobias:
Acrophobia – Fear of Heights
Arachnophobia – Fear of Spiders
Ophidiophobia – Fear of Snakes
Agoraphobia – Fear of being in a public situation from which it is difficult to escape
Mysophobia – Fear of Germs
Thankfully treatment for phobias exist. You don’t have to continue to suffer – contact a #therapist today!
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 24, 2018 | Blog
Definition: when one person seizes or takes over a conversation that belongs to someone else. Are you one?! Once you spot it you can navigate around it. Identify if you would like to give the floor to the other person because they have a greater need than you. If not, then segue back by resuming what you were saying as if the interruption never happened. Another option is to validate what the person just said and bridge it back to your point. Understand that passion is driving this behavior, by empathizing with your conversation companion you will not develop negative feelings and still enjoy the conversation.
#conversation #therapy #therapist
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 22, 2018 | Blog
What do we all have in common? That we secretly love gossip. We love hearing it and passing it on. We spend millions to read gossip even when we know it’s not true. So why do we gossip, read Stanford research: Hidden benefits of gossip, ostracism.
Top 5 Benefits of Gossip
- Entertain each other
- Learn from others’ mistakes
- Relieves Stress
- It makes us feel good about ourselves
- It’s a form of self-protection.
#gossip #therapy #stress
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 19, 2018 | Blog
Volunteering with friends is one of the best ways to insure you have a great weekend. Volunteering is good for your mind and body. It will give you purpose while stimulating your mind and getting your heart rate up. It combats depression, stress, anger, and anxiety. Doing it with friends adds a layer of fun and whimsy.
Some good places to volunteer:
Animal Shelters
Habitat for Humanity
Houses of worship
Post a picture of where you volunteered this weekend.
#volunteer #stress #friends #therapy #therapist
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 18, 2018 | Blog
Try Spending the Day Alone
People are staying single longer and even those that are married tend to be more autonomous than previous generations. I work with clients that refuse to run errands or go out to dinner alone. They fear being judged as lesser than if they were to be spotted by an acquaintance.
Enjoying ones company is a sign of strength and confidence. Take your self to the movies, visit a museum, or utter those scary words “Table for one please” and feel empowered at once! Our independence is read as confidence to our partners and society at large, and confidence is one of the most coveted qualities.
Please share what you prefer to do alone…
#confidence #alone #anxiety #depression #therapy #therapist
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 16, 2018 | Blog
Journaling is something we all think about doing but somehow don’t get around to. Maybe it’s not knowing what to write or the daily commitment is overwhelming, well today all of that is going to change. I am encouraging you to only write when the mood strikes you! Here are some prompts to inspire you to journal:
1. List the 3 people you spend the most time with, why, and how they’re affecting your behaviors, your thoughts, your life.
2. If you stopped thinking about money or people’s opinions, what would you do with your life?
3. What is a book you wish someone would write or how would you change the ending of a book you recently read?
#happiness #journaling #therapy #therapist
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 15, 2018 | Blog
Monday Marriage Tip…compliment your partner. According to Gottman research a healthy relationship has a 5:1 ratio. Five positive to one negative comment. Infuse your relationship with compliments and you both will benefit.
This act of kindness increases serotonin for both the giver and receiver which leads to increased productivity, decreased stress, and more harmony. Make it part of your routine and watch the bickering between you subside.
#marriage #couples #argument #therapy #therapist #marriagecounseling
