What Predicts Whether a Couple Survives Infidelity
It is not the strength of the relationship before—it is the response after.
Contrary to common assumptions, couples who survive infidelity are not necessarily those with the strongest relationships prior to betrayal.
They are the couples willing to engage in the most difficult emotional work afterward.
Key Predictors of Recovery
Radical Honesty
Avoiding minimization and fully acknowledging impact
Emotional Accountability
Understanding underlying relational dynamics
Willingness to Rebuild Trust Gradually
Trust is reconstructed through repeated, consistent behavior
Capacity for Vulnerability
Both partners engage emotionally in the repair process
What Does Not Predict Recovery
- longevity of the relationship
- intensity of prior love
- absence of conflict
The Role of Emotional Safety
Recovery depends on restoring a sense of safety—not just ending the affair.
The Phases of Recovery
- Crisis stabilization
- Meaning-making
- Reconnection
About the Author:
Couples Therapist in California
Marina Edelman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder of TrueMe® Counseling, a couples and relationship therapy practice serving clients in Westlake Village, Thousand Oaks, and throughout California.
Marina specializes in couples therapy, affair recovery, and relationship repair, drawing on a carefully integrated set of evidence-based approaches:
- Gottman Method — Research-based tools for reducing conflict and building friendship and intimacy
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — Healing attachment injuries and rebuilding emotional safety
- Attachment-Based Therapy — Understanding how early relational patterns shape adult love
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) — Identifying and shifting the thought patterns that fuel disconnection
- AEDP — Processing deep emotional wounds with compassion and precision
Her counseling is best suited for couples and individuals seeking structured, research-backed support for relationship repair, affair recovery, anxiety, communication challenges, and premarital or marriage counseling — in person or via telehealth across California.
As a Founder of TrueMe Counseling, Marina proudly works with the following therapists with additional specialties:
These therapists see clients in Culver City, and Westlake Village Office as well as virtually all throughout California.
Cheryl Baldi, LMFT
Individuals | Grief | Families | Trauma
Cheryl Baldi is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology who works with individuals, couples, and families in a warm, empathetic, and collaborative environment.
Specializations: Anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, hopelessness, and family systems.
Best suited for: Individuals who feel stuck in unhealthy patterns and are looking for a compassionate, strengths-based therapist to help them build practical tools and reclaim a more peaceful life.
Dr. Rachel Chistyakov, PsyD, LMFT
Trauma | Kids & Teens | Families
Dr. Rachel Chistyakov brings both doctoral-level training in psychology and LMFT licensure to her work with couples, families, children, and individuals. Her practice centers on healing, connection, and emotional insight.
Specializations: Trauma, PTSD, anxiety, depression, family therapy, and specialized work with children and teenagers.
Best suited for: Individuals and families seeking a highly credentialed therapist with broad clinical range, including parents looking for specialized support for children and adolescents.
Chris Calandra, AMFT
Individuals | Men's Issues | Substance Abuse
Specializations: Anxiety, substance use and addiction, relationship issues, and men's mental health.
Best suited for: Individuals who want direct, down-to-earth support and are ready to do meaningful work. Particularly well-suited for men who may be approaching therapy for the first time.
Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Therapy
Explore answers to frequently asked questions about the benefits and processes of couples therapy.
What issues can couples therapy help with?
Couples therapy can help with communication issues, emotional disconnection, infidelity, and conflict patterns.
Is online therapy effective?
Yes—research shows online therapy can be just as effective as in-person sessions for many couples.
What approach do you use?
I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, both research-backed approaches.
Ready to Reconnect?
Final Reflections
Healing is less about returning to what existed before—and more about creating a different, more secure relational dynamic.
You’re not just choosing a partner—you’re choosing the emotional environment you live in.
If your relationship feels disconnected, stuck, or uncertain, therapy can help you understand what’s happening and how to move forward.
Learn more or schedule a consultation at MarinaEdelman.com
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