by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 19, 2018 | Blog
Volunteering with friends is one of the best ways to insure you have a great weekend. Volunteering is good for your mind and body. It will give you purpose while stimulating your mind and getting your heart rate up. It combats depression, stress, anger, and anxiety. Doing it with friends adds a layer of fun and whimsy.
Some good places to volunteer:
Animal Shelters
Habitat for Humanity
Houses of worship
Post a picture of where you volunteered this weekend.
#volunteer #stress #friends #therapy #therapist
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 18, 2018 | Blog
Try Spending the Day Alone
People are staying single longer and even those that are married tend to be more autonomous than previous generations. I work with clients that refuse to run errands or go out to dinner alone. They fear being judged as lesser than if they were to be spotted by an acquaintance.
Enjoying ones company is a sign of strength and confidence. Take your self to the movies, visit a museum, or utter those scary words “Table for one please” and feel empowered at once! Our independence is read as confidence to our partners and society at large, and confidence is one of the most coveted qualities.
Please share what you prefer to do alone…
#confidence #alone #anxiety #depression #therapy #therapist
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 11, 2018 | Blog
I recently came across a book called The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge. One of the things the author discusses is the power of visualization. Experiments done with basketball players showed that players that sat on the bench but visualized practicing their warm up routine, actually had the same level of preparedness at game time as those that physically practiced.
How can visualization help you?
Imagine your goals with images that trigger excitement in your body.
- Visualize with the ‘Mental Rehearsal’ Technique. …
- Create a Goal Board
- Create a Visual Picture and an Affirmation for Each Goal. …
- Imagine different scenarios that could occur if this goal were a reality
- Use Affirmations to Support Your Visualization. …
- Expect Results.
#happiness #anxiety #therapy #therapist #visualization
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Oct 9, 2018 | Blog
I am excited to have found a pure and effective CBD oil to share with my clients.
How CBD oil can help anxiety
CBD oil is thought to work with a brain receptor called CB1. The exact way CBD affects CB1 is still being studied and is not fully understood, however, it’s thought that it increases serotonin levels in your body. Tradition treatment for low serotonin is prescription SSRI’s such as Zoloft and Prozac. CBD can be an alternative for some people who struggle with generalized anxiety, social anxiety, etc. Please talk to your doctor before making changes to your treatment plan or using CBD.
What to look for in CBD Oil
- Cold Pressed
- Broad spectrum
- Turpenes
- Balanced Oil
- Tested for pesticide
This product has it all! Please let me know if you would like more information.
#anxiety #CBD #Therapy #Therapist #CBDOil
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Sep 25, 2018 | Blog
Autophobia is the fear of being alone. Some people become so consumed with never being alone that they lose themselves in trying to please others or accepting invitations to just not be alone. What is so scary about being alone? Loneliness can bring about depression but being alone, even for extroverts, can be calming and refreshing. Try running errands, going to lunch, or staying home on Saturday night all by yourself and pay attention to how you feel. It’s not so scary and you might actually enjoy it.
#alone #depression #fear #anxiety #therapy
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Sep 24, 2018 | anxiety
Who doesn’t like the smell and taste of coffee in the morning. Researchers suggest that drinking two or more cups of coffee every day can reduce the risk of some cancer, liver disease, and possibly Parkinson’s disease. However, if you have anxiety please consider an alternative beverage. Caffeine is a stimulant and can cause jitters. For people who are predisposed to anxiety, caffeine can trigger uncomfortable sensations such as sweaty palms, racing heart, and ringing in the ears. These feelings can trick your brain into feeling stress or anxiety. If this happens remind your self you are having a normal response to a stimulant and that it will pass shortly. Drink lots of water and try diaphram breathing.
#anxiety #stress #coffee #stimulant #caffeine #psychonutrition
by Marina Edelman, LMFT | Feb 8, 2017 | Blog, Uncategorized
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People often fall helplessly in love with the perfect aspects of people’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anyone can love the best parts of another individual. The question is: Can you accept their flaws? Can you honestly say, ‘I could work around that’ about your partner and kids?
Part of the main challenges of marriage is the continuous need to remind ourselves about the reason we married our spouse, to refocus ourselves on all the qualities that drew us to them, and tell ourselves that we’ll fine tune, but we can’t change their basic character.
How to accept the flaws of your spouse and kids
If you’re loud and lively and you were attracted to your spouse for his/her sense of calm, you cannot complain that they don’t like going out more often. Instead, we must concentrate on the positive effect that his/her peaceful nature has on your wilder one.
It’s in such areas of diversity that there’s usually the most attraction, and the most struggles, with opportunity for growth.
Another tricky aspect is seeing the good part that’s “always” there. The irritations. The pet peeves and habits and major and minor troubles that make you go crazy. Accepting your spouse’s flaw is easier when you’re aware of your bad habits, quirks, and weaknesses. One way to accept your spouses’ flaws is to take into account their positive side and what you appreciate about them. Another way to accept your spouses’ and kids flaws is to be conscious of and also accept your own.
How can you become aware of yourself and your environment?
Self-awareness involves noting your actions and thoughts. One way to note them is by putting them down in a journal daily.
If you continue putting it off and letting a week pass by without making the notes, you might not remember everything important.
Keeping notes will help you to see the values and patterns you have been hiding all along. Once you identify patterns, you gain the power to change them if they are not self serving.
If you’re self-aware, you’ll learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others around you. You will also understand your environment and how you impact others better. This will help you to focus more on their good aspects rather than their flaws.
An individual’s belief in their power to succeed is set by how they behave, think, and feel. Somebody with a firm self-efficacy, for instance, views tasks as mere challenges that have to be overcome, and aren’t easily disheartened by setbacks.
Such people are aware of all their abilities and flaws and choose to use these qualities properly.
A person with a fragile sense of self-efficacy avoids challenges and easily feels dispirited by setbacks. They might not be conscious of their negative reactions, and so do not change their attitude.
Accepting your spouse’s flaws can start by appreciating their virtues and working on your own self awareness.
